Submission by Jane K.
Concentrate on the Behavior not the Child: When praising a
child for good behavior say "Nice way to share" or
"Thanks for picking up your toys" instead of saying
"Good boy or Good Girl". This way children learn
which behaviors are good behaviors. When reprimanding your
child make sure to state the negative action he did so he knows
what he shouldn't be doing. Never say "you're a bad
boy/girl". Just say something like "you're not
allowed to hit people so that is why you're going in time
out". Make the child aware of his good deeds by saying
"You must be so proud of yourself for doing that."
instead of saying "I'm so proud of you." This will
give them a sense of pride.
Submission by Maggie F.
Show your Child Respect and Understanding: If your child is
upset or angry with you let your child know that you understand
his feelings before you reprimand him for bad behavior. If
he's crying after he's done something wrong or if he's throwing a
temper tantrum ask him why he's crying. If he can't tell
you, then tell him why you think he's crying so you acknowledge
his feelings. Then if he's done something wrong, let him
know you understand how he feels, but that his behavior isn't
allowed and that there are consequences. If you show your
child that you understand his feelings and explain why he's
getting in trouble then he'll know right from wrong the next time.
It's also important to let your child make his own decisions at
times. If he makes the wrong decision try not to say "I
told you so", but instead ask him what he learned from the
outcome and ask him how he thinks he could have made a better
decision.
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